The Art of Attraction
Is there a science of attraction?
Now I am not talking about the law of attraction at least not as it usually applies to personal development. I am referring to the type of attraction that leads to the creation of babies!
Some people claim that attraction starts in the mind. This of course is something that I wholeheartedly agree with because as far as spiritual teachings are concerned everything starts in the mind.
However, attraction is also a biological reaction is it not?
Well according to evolutionalists it is. Therefore we may assume that we have no, or little , choice about who we are attracted to. Right?
Well according to psychologists it is a little more complicated than that!
You see there are evolutionary reasons fro being attracted to a member of the opposite sex. Men are attracted to women who appear youthful and vibrant with wide hips and large breasts because they have a higher chance of bearing strong children to continue his DNA.
Women are attracted to men who are forceful, confident and leaders because they offer the chance of greater protection and are more likely to be a more proficient provider.
These attraction switches in heterosexual men and women are fixed for the most part and are hardwired into our brains. We react to certain biological signals that tell us we have found a potential partner who has high value as a mate.
However, this is merely the animalistic part of our nature. We have evolved as a species to have a high level of communicative ability and therefore although we are subject to the primitive urges of our brains there are other psychological considerations that have an effect on our levels of attractiveness for another person.
The thing is though, these psychological factors that are driven by form s of communication, both verbal and non-verbal, are still interpreted by the brain as being merely cues (or clues) that point to the base animalistic attraction factors mentioned easier.
So what does all this mean and what use is it to us?
Well it means that if communication plays a huge role in attraction - because it indicates to the primitive part of the brain that we either conform to an attractive stereotype and are therefore a potential mate or that we do not conform and are therefore not a potential mate - we can deliberately manipulate our communications to send out the correct signal.
To sum-up the above paragraph is layman terms - it means we can say and do things that will make us more attractive to the opposite sex!
The science of this assertion is sound. However, finding a working formula for using it is another thing entirely. If you are interested in finding out more I would suggest you visit pick up artists and flirting tips for girls.