Emotions are an extremely potent force on our lives. There is no question that the way we feel is reflected in our thoughts and everyone knows that our thinking determines our actions. As the results we get in life our in direct proportion to the actions we take (or do not take) then it becomes obvious that our emotions are responsible, to a large degree, for the experiences we have in life.

Let us take anger as an example! 

Most of us get angry at some time or another. The degrees of anger differ from person to person and situation to situation.

However, why do some people fly off into an uncontrollable rage while the rest of us can control our anger to some degree?  

People who are prone to lose their temper, often have sever negative self-talk. Negative internal dialogue can cause real damage to anyone but to the person who is prone to anger is highly susceptible to its negative effects.  

Any type of negative self-talk is more often that not based on purely false assumptions and misinformation. When an anger person, by nature, allows his own negative self-talk to drag him deeper into anger the consequences can be dire or even life-threatening to another.

The poet Emperor of Rome, Marcus Aurelius, summed up anger very well when he said, "How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it." 

The problem with angry people is that they dwell on negative self-talk about themselves and others. Then when someone says something that they feel is “out of turn” or “negative” they feel that it is a reflection of themselves and is directed solely at them.  

Angry people take almost everything that is said to them as a personal insult. However, nobody can put us down or make us feel like worthless without our permission.

Every one of us allows ourselves to get angry by using our self-talk to confirm that the other person is belittling us, insulting us or trying to control us in some way. However, if we did not feel that the person was in some way correct we would not respond with anger! However, because we feel we have been challenged in a way that brings out our own insecurities we feel that anger is the only response to regain control and some sense of self-worth! 

However, rarely do the words or actions of others have the sole purpose of hurting us. People rarely have a vested interest in telling us that we are worthless. An angry person must get to the stage where they can hear what is being said by the other person and stop projecting their own insecurities on their words. Basically we all use our own personal experiences, beliefs, thoughts and feelings to interpret other people’s words.

Our internal attitude of beliefs, thoughts and feelings, which is based on our past experiences, taints how we see the world and other people.

Angry people have a very distorted view of other people and therefore project this attitude onto others feeling that they are intentionally trying to demean them. 

Anger is basically an extension of the feeling of being out of control. It is a way of trying to regain your control over others and situations. However, its effects are very much the opposite. 

Do you want to eliminate anger from your life completely – whether it be your own on the anger of others? Then go to the Sedona Method or Release Technique and see how easy it can be to release the negative thoughts and feelings that cause your anger!